One thing at a time

If Ideas Had Mass, You’d Need a Couch for Your Head

Being the thought revolutionary that you are, it can be hard to focus on just one project at a time. You must! If thoughts and ideas had mass, your head would be swollen like a genetically modified melon. There are a ton of methods out there for getting organized – …

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eat soap

Do You Eat Soap? Using Self-Destruction to Gain Control

When I was a very small child, I was afraid of being forced to eat soap. Being an intelligent little girl, I thought of a plan to prevent this from happening, without having to avoid punishment altogether by abstaining from my mischievous ways. I decided if they thought I enjoyed …

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Beyond Ego

Beyond Ego – Embracing Empathy

You may have great intelligence, but that doesn’t mean your perspective is the definitive one. Intolerance, and the inability to empathize, can be debilitating. Ego is the destroyer. Not getting what you want, or not feeling understood, doesn’t mean the other person is wrong or deficient. No two people have …

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Limiting Beliefs

Limiting Beliefs – Out with the Old, In with the New

I was watching the movie Captain Phillips yesterday. SPOILER ALERT. At the end, he was rescued from a hostage situation, where he was being held by pirates. He was seconds away from being executed. He had written his goodbye letter to his family, and screamed words of regret, love and …

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ride the depression wave

Depression Tips ~ Ride the Wave Without Being Pulled Under

Depression, anxiety, and worry can get in the way of fully living. They’re also a way of telling us we need to focus on different goals, slow down, or seek what soothes our burdened hearts. No matter what issues we are going through, no matter how determined we are to …

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Be Compassionate

How to Be Compassionate When Someone Acts Like a Big Jerk

One of my biggest struggles is being consistently compassionate. It’s hard to admit. I’m not proud of my tendency to be judgmental and snarky in the face of opposition. Especially when this kind of attitude doesn’t fit in with how I picture my best self behaving. When I’m riding my …

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being your best self

Being Your Best Self

When you picture your ideal self, what characteristics does that person embody? Are you shining with vibrant light, experiencing a great sense of peace and courageously taking chances? Do you have great patience and understanding? Do you dazzle your friends with your sense of humor and give generously of all …

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