Be Compassionate

How to Be Compassionate When Someone Acts Like a Big Jerk

One of my biggest struggles is being consistently compassionate. It’s hard to admit. I’m not proud of my tendency to be judgmental and snarky in the face of opposition. Especially when this kind of attitude doesn’t fit in with how I picture my best self behaving. When I’m riding my bike around town, and some car blows through a stop …

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Incredible Synchronicity – The Universe Speaks

I originally wrote this post while sitting under the shade of a tree in a local park. A blues festival was nearby, and my husband and I were reaping the benefits of our “free ticket.” The wind was tenderly soothing me. I was feeling inspired, calm, joyful. Words that Guide Us A picture came into my mind of a painting …

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being your best self

Being Your Best Self

When you picture your ideal self, what characteristics does that person embody? Are you shining with vibrant light, experiencing a great sense of peace and courageously taking chances? Do you have great patience and understanding? Do you dazzle your friends with your sense of humor and give generously of all you have? Being your best self is separate, yet intertwined …

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Stop Beating Yourself Up

Stop Beating Yourself Up – Create Your Inner Reality

To accomplish goals, and make dreams come true, requires commitment, focus and confidence. Without commitment, you will be a shining star, that will soon explode. Without focus, you’re in it for the long run, but are wasting time, split in too many directions. Without confidence, you won’t believe you can do, or deserve, any of this. Our Own Worst Enemy …

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Stop Dating Losers

Manipulation – The word might make you picture psychotic murderers, or a person with evil intent. Really, manipulation is used in our everyday society, and by each of us, to some extent. Advertising, convincing your baby the mashed peas are delicious by making a yummy yummy noise, even false eyelashes are all forms of manipulation. Clearly, some forms of manipulation …

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I was a terrible receptionist

I Was a Terrible Receptionist

I’ve held a variety of positions, in a number of offices, some of them tolerable, none of them desirable. My least favorite of all was always receptionist. Want to drive an intelligent person completely insane? Make them work in an office, and chain them to their desk while you’re at it. There are millions of obvious reasons why office jobs …

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You Make a Difference – My Kindergarten Teacher

That well-known saying, “Everything I need to know, I learned in kindergarten,” is mostly true for me. Except, everything I needed to know, I learned from my kindergarten teacher throughout my adolescence. My adoptive family came to me one day, when I was six, and asked me if I wanted to live with my kindergarten teacher for a while. I …

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life gives you lemons

I Got Lemonade for Valentine’s Day

I’ve never officially celebrated Valentine’s Day. I have always considered it a corporate holiday meant to impose artificial standards of love, and sexist gender norms, upon the masses. I do, however, love roses and chocolates, but I get those whenever I feel like it. I also get the unconditional love of my partner every single day, and not usually in …

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