codependency

I’ll Make Him Want Me

Jennifer didn’t date much, but when she did, the guy was usually pretty unhealthy. Her suitors would become attached quickly, demanding all of her time.  This worked for her. It gave her the power position, and made her feel wanted, needed even. Why Doesn’t He Want Me? What’s Wrong With …

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Limiting Beliefs

Limiting Beliefs – Out with the Old, In with the New

I was watching the movie Captain Phillips yesterday. SPOILER ALERT. At the end, he was rescued from a hostage situation, where he was being held by pirates. He was seconds away from being executed. He had written his goodbye letter to his family, and screamed words of regret, love and …

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ride the depression wave

Depression Tips ~ Ride the Wave Without Being Pulled Under

Depression, anxiety, and worry can get in the way of fully living. They’re also a way of telling us we need to focus on different goals, slow down, or seek what soothes our burdened hearts. No matter what issues we are going through, no matter how determined we are to …

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Be Compassionate

How to Be Compassionate When Someone Acts Like a Big Jerk

One of my biggest struggles is being consistently compassionate. It’s hard to admit. I’m not proud of my tendency to be judgmental and snarky in the face of opposition. Especially when this kind of attitude doesn’t fit in with how I picture my best self behaving. When I’m riding my …

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being your best self

Being Your Best Self

When you picture your ideal self, what characteristics does that person embody? Are you shining with vibrant light, experiencing a great sense of peace and courageously taking chances? Do you have great patience and understanding? Do you dazzle your friends with your sense of humor and give generously of all …

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Stop Beating Yourself Up

Stop Beating Yourself Up – Create Your Inner Reality

To accomplish goals, and make dreams come true, requires commitment, focus and confidence. Without commitment, you will be a shining star, that will soon explode. Without focus, you’re in it for the long run, but are wasting time, split in too many directions. Without confidence, you won’t believe you can …

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Stop Dating Losers

Manipulation – The word might make you picture psychotic murderers, or a person with evil intent. Really, manipulation is used in our everyday society, and by each of us, to some extent. Advertising, convincing your baby the mashed peas are delicious by making a yummy yummy noise, even false eyelashes …

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