Not Everyone is Doing Their Best

Not Everyone is Interested in Being Their Best

I used to believe the phrase, “We are all doing the best with what we have.” It wasn’t until a conversation, years ago, with a trusted mentor, I realized that saying just doesn’t hold true. Not Everyone Is Interested In Being, or Doing, Their Best Having low self-worth can cause us to believe we don’t deserve to be at our …

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rumpelstiltskin

Don’t Make Me Get All Rumpelstiltskin

When I throw myself a pity party over something inconsequential, or fume over a perceived act of injustice, the first thing that goes through my mind is a scene from a made-for-TV children’s story from the 80s. I viewed it for the first time when I was a child. It’s mark on me was indelible. Rumpelstiltskin has become my go …

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Living without a car

No Phone – No Car – No Problem

How is this possible? How can I live without a phone, or a car (no TV either)? It’s easy. Really easy. Preferable, in fact. We’ve been convinced by external sources that we need these things. There are many things we think we need, but we don’t. I only own five outfits, four pairs of shoes, and make my own lotions …

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One thing at a time

If Ideas Had Mass, You’d Need a Couch for Your Head

Being the thought revolutionary that you are, it can be hard to focus on just one project at a time. You must! If thoughts and ideas had mass, your head would be swollen like a genetically modified melon. There are a ton of methods out there for getting organized – Get Things Done, 80/20, just to name two of the …

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eat soap

Do You Eat Soap? Using Self-Destruction to Gain Control

When I was a very small child, I was afraid of being forced to eat soap. Being an intelligent little girl, I thought of a plan to prevent this from happening, without having to avoid punishment altogether by abstaining from my mischievous ways. I decided if they thought I enjoyed eating soap, it would be a useless deterrent. My plan …

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Beyond Ego

Beyond Ego – Embracing Empathy

You may have great intelligence, but that doesn’t mean your perspective is the definitive one. Intolerance, and the inability to empathize, can be debilitating. Ego is the destroyer. Not getting what you want, or not feeling understood, doesn’t mean the other person is wrong or deficient. No two people have the same path. Walk your walk. See the good in …

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Limiting Beliefs

Limiting Beliefs – Out with the Old, In with the New

I was watching the movie Captain Phillips yesterday. SPOILER ALERT. At the end, he was rescued from a hostage situation, where he was being held by pirates. He was seconds away from being executed. He had written his goodbye letter to his family, and screamed words of regret, love and unfulfilled promises before a blindfold was placed on his face. …

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ride the depression wave

Depression Tips ~ Ride the Wave Without Being Pulled Under

Depression, anxiety, and worry can get in the way of fully living. They’re also a way of telling us we need to focus on different goals, slow down, or seek what soothes our burdened hearts. No matter what issues we are going through, no matter how determined we are to succeed, our unique journey must be respected. If you tell …

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